Hi all, I'm here because I have a question. I saw a therapist today with my fiance. I had seen her previously because I did something very very bad to him. Basically what we talked about was "you have to forgive yourself." I cried and cried and cried saying, "what's wrong with me." She was like, "no you're good, you're problem is you're too hard on yourself." Very charming and very persuasive and instantly I found myself implementing her suggestions to be less hard on myself and boyfriend. It really strengthened my relationship -- after one session, great! So we never set up another appointment, she didn't really agree to take me on, whatever, I was happy.

Ok, here's the problem. I had mentioned to her that my fiance has depression problems and do you think that she could see him. We get there today (some scheduling snafus, she never got back to me about the appointment time) and go in. It turns out she doesn't take my fiancé's insurance. So I said, "can you bill mine as couple's therapy? I'll leave and give you some privacy." (We didn't talk about needing couple time- my boyfriend wanted therapy for his depression and we made that clear).

She says ok, but first I think you should sit and hear something.

She turns to my boyfriend and says, "how do you feel about what Daisy001 did to you?"



He says, "Mad and sad but I forgive her."

I BURST into tears. They had the rest of the appointment normally just getting to know each other stuff. Neither of them acknowledged I was crying.

At the end of the session we discussed it and my boyfriend wanted more therapy. And she goes, Ok, we're kind of using you, haha. And I'm like NO ok, I just want him to get help.

But after session I felt so awkward that he and she just let me cry. He never does that. So it was like "punishment" for the bad thing.

Ok, so the reason I'm posting this is, is there anything my boyfriend and I can use from this woman? How can I make sense in my mind of that she seemed so sincere and caring (she said, "it must help to know there's someone out there in the world who cares about you and your fiance") and yet the session went so badly (for me). I feel guilty but I almost felt... left out!