You may have been bought up in a differnt upbring but so has your bf. There was alot of miscommunication between you guys. As for parents you must be able to talk to one another on agreeing on how to raise your childern. There may be things that you guys could not totally agree on but thats when compromise comes into play. You must knowledge and respect that your bf's upbringing is different from yours. It sounded as though your bf didn't flat out said that he wouldn't help out at all. Once you and your bf comes to an agreement on how things should be when it comes to helping one another out with your children then it would also be alot easier for the children.

Clear communication is the KEY!!