View Single Post
 
Old May 03, 2013, 11:11 PM
hamster-bamster hamster-bamster is offline
Account Suspended
 
Member Since: Sep 2011
Location: Northern California
Posts: 14,805
Quote:
Originally Posted by NWgirl2013 View Post
I dunno, leave or go.

I know what this feels like. BAD. In my case he was defensive about his "needs", defending it with this. (sigh, such a tired line of b.s.)

You feel criticized and compared, like so many sides of meat.

I did something. I dunno if this was bad or good, but it made me feel better & I got a reaction I did not expect.

I got his computer, found & saved numerous explicit pics of men. I put these in his favorites file.

I few days later, he came to me, tearful, wanting to know why! "Why do you want to look at other mens' bodies!!!" (cue: wailing sadness) "I don't like that! It makes me feel bad" (boo-hoo)
I did the classic question to a question, "why wouldn't I. They're amazing." And I assured him that if he intended to do that, then it was okay for me too.

I did it to make him see that it is a dirty business bringing that stuff into our new home, and we agreed that we needed a zero tolerance policy in our home for porn. (an easy bargain for me)
I dunno if he ever stopped. But it did make him think. He did treat me better after that.
That's my true story of porn...
Since this situation comes up again and again under different threads, I will be copying your solution, via a link to the post. Already done once.