I agree Michelle. She said the "brave" thing at the end of our session. She's a grad student and still learning, so I think she meant well...but yea, it kind of made me feel even more embarassed.
She said at one point "well, it's not like we can go out for coffee"

I said "I know, but if it was allowed, I would absolutely ask you out for coffee"

I then added "and I know I'm being rather presumptuous even thinking you would want to go...but"

She said "well, I can't really say if I would or wouldn't. Reason being, it could create a fantasy"

I asked her to elaborate and she said

"Well, what would it mean to you if I told you I would like to have coffee with you?"

uuugh. I really didn't need her to analyze what my feelings "mean to me". Just to acknowledge them.

She tries....and she really does mean well....I think she just gets a little stuck sometimes. I also think I caught her off guard with this.

None the less, nothing has changed on my part. I'm not sure it ever will. Life can be unfair.