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Originally Posted by stopdog
This is a real question if you are inclined to answer - I am curious because of how repugnant this sounds to me - why/how would this be a good thing?
I might could get the how to reword what you want to say so that someone might listen - like if I say X - the person hears Y - so how do I reword it to get them to hear X instead. But someone telling me what to do is a such a horrible notion to me that just thinking about it gets me worked up a bit.
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I can sort of relate to this. I have one person in RL I tell personal stuff to, and he's got a tendency to go "Your thinking is weird, you should try saying X, Y and Z to person A, B and C instead", which is starting to get on my nerves a bit. (He doesn't do it all the time, or even most of the time, but sometimes.) This in contrast to my T, who goes "So if I understand it correctly you are thinking along these lines... why do you think that is? What leads you to that line of thinking?"
So while the notion of someone telling us what to do and say can be attractive, for me at least it doesn't really work.
Er, maybe it wasn't really about the same thing at all. Sorry.
