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May 04, 2013, 05:10 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
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It sounds like maybe she thought is would be more helpful to you to address current relationships than delving into past trauma. Maybe she was afraid that if you started working on trauma that present issues would be too pushed to the side. Maybe she thought you weren't 'ready/stable' enough. Maybe she was trying to be therapeutically careful, as Asiablue pointed out.
But obviously (if this was her thinking) it's only her opinion and it's your therapy. I think it's unfortunate she seemed to brush aside your attempts to talk about these things, instead of openly explaining to you why she might not think it wise, which would have given you a chance to tell her how you feel about it as well. It sounds a little controlling to me.
But as others have said, at least now you know better what you want from therapy and can let your new therapist know (or screen therapists out for this) what you'd like to work on at the outset. It can be so hard to speak up in therapy and express what you want --and all the more so if what you want to talk about is so so difficult to bring up in the first place. Best of luck with your new therapist and I'm very sorry it didn't work out with the last one -though I'm glad you had the courage to leave and are seeking out more help, despite the bad experience. 
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