I think that it is important to just realize we actually "grow" all our lives. None of us are "just like everyone else" either, we have our own lives to live, things to learn and things we didn't quite understand or know in our past too. I am in my 50's and I never expected to experience PTSD at this time in my life, I never realized what it really was and how much of a challenge it is either. I just do things one day at a time right now tbh.