I feel like we have tried everything we could come up with to solve it so I was looking for outside advice, and you all have been very helpful.

Yeah, basically I feel like he's choosing that over sex because I have a high sex drive and his is lower so when he chooses that instead it means it will be longer before we havesex again. Believe me if this situation were different and I wasn't interested I'd be like yes please go do it yourself lol.