she told me to read the boundaries in marriage book again... she asks me why I don't share my feelings with my H... she said something that I'm not sure I understand what she meant...

We were talking about how to use boundaries with a prior example of a time when H did something that was upsetting to me and he didn't alter his actions even after I asked... and she said that I should have told him after the fact (calmed down) that I wanted to talk about it and when was a good time... If H avoids (which is what he does) then "the relationship does not progress from there" (what exactly does that mean in real life) until H decides he is willing to talk it over with me.