My T's life mission is for me to get angry at him, I think. He loves it when I do.

How do I work through it? I freak out, am scared to tell him, cry, squeak it out, cry, and feel way better. That's my process--I'm learning to feel safe around anger by getting angry at him. He's always very receptive, accepting, and kind about it. But it's also not like I'm yelling or being cruel with what I say.