He seems to get so much enjoyment out of my expressions of anger at him, that he takes the fun right out of it.

If I say I feel vaguely homicidal, he seems amused. If I say I'd like to plunge a sharp object between his eyes, he cracks up. If I look around for something sharp, he practically fall out of his chair. Perhaps he doesn't take me so seriously.

We like to argue about whether anger is a "primary" emotion or not. There are those who like to say that anger is really an emotion secondary to being hurt or disappointed or not having your needs met. Sometimes that is true for me, sometimes I just feel pissed off.

I haven't found any difficulty with T's dealing with anger, in any of the three that I have seen. Although I might find that they might have more difficult with anger towards them than when I am discussing anger at someone else, I haven't found that to be true. My current T deals with anger in the same way he deals with anything else I say-- he tries to make sure he understands what I mean, he tries to help me understand where it comes from or how I'm interpreting where it comes from, he tries to help me figure out if this is something I want or need to change. It's just not anything that is outside of any other issue or emotion.

I find anger relatively easy to express. I have more difficulty speaking up about my disappointment, unhappiness, or other issues that make me more vulnerable. When I'm angry, I feel strong, like nobody ought to mess with me. People around me notice my anger. The other things, not so much, probably because I'm a master at hiding and ignoring them.