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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
It makes me feel good to know people like me and want to talk to me. There are several people where I work who make a point of talking to me and of course I willingly respond. But they talk about their own interests and seem to assume I share them. One woman in particular finds me very amusing (I do not try to be, I am usually commenting on something I find irksome or irritating and it must be the way I express myself).
She likes fantasy, cartoons, superheroes and many other whimsical things. The movies, books, internet stuff she talks about and recommends to me are all related to that stuff. I listen politely and comment appropriately to demonstrate I have listened. But this last time she mentioned the same things all over again I finally said her favorite star was not my favorite although I did like him in a particular film (which I could tell she didn't like). So.
I guess what I was trying to do was continue to respect her, but also to indicate that I did not share all of her interests in exactly the same way.
Maybe I didn't do it right.
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Why do you think you didn't do something right? Because she didn't like what you did or wasn't pleasant about it? Or because she keeps treating you the same way, giving the same information?
The reaction you get doesn't to me mean you did something wrong. Sounds like you were polite, and she wasn't polite in return. (I wasn't there, so this impression of course comes from your words and is not the full picture.) Sometimes if I don't like the reaction, I try something different next time. You've given a good example of an experience that's worth thinking about for what is really happening there at a deeper level. (Not that I have the answer, but if it were my experience, I'd figure it out for myself, if I keep running into this person.)
It irks me she finds you amusing. Sounds like she is laughing AT you? Or what do you mean? I know people laugh when I'm serious because I sometimes exaggerate or use expressive language to describe the irritating thing, and the words themselves are somewhat amusing or surprising, so I can't blame them for that in my case.