(((((((( C ))))))) ugh, I know all about obligation, with my mean jerk of an ex, obligation was the poison that infected me. After him I vowed to steer clear from that word and all it entails, I think being bpd, I take "obligation" too far emotionally.

This time around, I have no obligations, and clearly have a bf who does not feel obligated to be with me, which in turn makes me feel safe. I am all for taking responsibility, but I refuse to feel obligated, its a dirty word in my book.

Ok now I've had my rant

So sorry things are hectic, I hope Junior's arm is seen to very soon and that your plate clears up nicely