You sound like a twin sister to me. I had borderline plonked onto my record because I said I recognized some of those patterns in myself. Cmon, pdoc, do your own work. He did nothing. That's pathetic. I myself have little respect for the profession after how I have been treated by a bunch of pill-happy classifiers who sit on their high-status medical horse and look down on their patients. Just my experience; I have never been helped but only further hindered. They apparently help other people, but I am very different in many ways. I am outside common categories very often in the behaviour of my body and mind, and they can't see outside their categories, at least not the nitwits I've had the pleasure of being treated by. Thank heavens our physical medicine establishment in my area is much better than that, or I would be dead.
What you say resonates with me, although from what I have read your family is more disordered (for want of a better term) than mine.