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Originally Posted by BlueInanna
Friend tonight told me he's so handsome he could be a model. I said, well no not really because of all the scares from cutting all over his arms and body. She's the teacher friend who thinks it's ok to be harsh on kids whom I mentioned in OP. she said she couldn't talk about that or comprehend that and that cutting is the stupidest thing anyone can do and that's what she would say if it were her child. I said, you could say that but then your child will shut you out and not tell you anything. People who cut are in serious emotional pain and your relationship, your bond with you child is the most important thing that can save their life. I believe this, I told her this. She apologized and walked away said she can't even stand thinking about it.
So that description above is the type of person allowed to "care" for our children most of the day. She views depression, self-hatred, cutting, as weakness, as "stupid" her words. I'm heart broken, not much more to say right now.
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Wow, Blue, I am surprised that your teacher friend doesn't understand why cutting happens. I was a cutter in middle and high school. I was very unstable then, but nobody noticed. My parents didn't care (alcoholics) and the teachers just viewed me as a kid who did very well academically.
I have worked with some pretty unprofessional teachers as well. In my last school, the CCR teacher (spec. ed) would make fun of mental illness. She didn't know I have bp, and she was constantly making very mean remarks about bp people.
Administrators, and some teachers, are not supportive when you are seeking services. I know this as a parent. I had to have one of my children tested privately because they said she was just being lazy in math because she understood the material. It turns out that she has a problem with processing speed and anxiety, so when she was being pressured to learn her multiplication facts, she was always sick to her stomach. Part of the problem is that special services requires more personnel, more paperwork, and federal laws that must be followed and documented.
I am sorry you are feeling such anger right now. I agree with Chris, make sure that you know as much as possible about the comments when you go in to discuss the situation. I am sure that past events are a part of your anger. You might outline other concerns as well.
Good luck!
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