I have had many wonderful guys as good friends in my 60 years of living. However I do not allow the friendship to ever go sexual as I do not believe in sex out of marriage. If the men are willing to be friends on my terms....great....& most do. You don't have to feel forced into having sexual relations with guys just to keep them as friends & those who only want you for sex.....good riddance anyway.

I was an aerospace firmware engineer & worked with only guys while I was married & so was my husband.....my life was surrounded basically by only men & I held onto my moral values tightly & only one guy attempted to cross my boundaries but I kept the relationship in strictly my professional boundaries.

If you want others to respect & care for you, you have to respect & care for yourself first & that doesn't mean using guys for sex even though in the past we have thought that's what guys mostly tried to do with women.....to be honest....guys worth having as friends & eventually as a husband aren't that way & they hold onto the same good moral values & have learned how to really care about women not just for sex.

Not true. I don't use people...I have my own life & my friends have theirs & our lives come together through mutual interests in the things we value in our lives....there is no using of anyone. It's truly caring relationships that exist without any USE involved. We do things for each other out of caring not out of using the other person....there is a huge difference between the 2 attitudes.