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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Wow, I am glad you took that way the way I meant it (I hope), MUE, because re-reading it, it sounds so much harsher than I meant. I think you're funny and smart and a wonderful person, and I was worried about how much (it seems to me) that you hurt yourself in trying to please others and do what other expect from you.
I am so VERY glad I deleted the harsh post I was going to submit when the one I was trying to be nice in sounded that harsh. LOL.
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Aww, thanks, MKAC. I was able to see that your frustration came from a place of caring, and I really do appreciate that.
It makes me a little sad, though, because it's highlighting something that was brought to my attention many years ago when I was still married - basically how I was unhappy about things but would accept them, because I didn't want to disappoint my H, or deal with the repercussions. Despite the fact that I did divorce my H, it seems that this pattern still resurfaces in other areas. *sigh*
I actually did say NO to my mom today when she asked if I would do the chocolate fundraiser again next month - and then again in the fall and near Christmas. She was surprised but seemed to accept it.
And you're absolutely right that I do it to myself. At the same time, I wish I wasn't surrounded by so many people who are expecting so much from me for their own gain.
I guess the difference with T is that I truly believe he has my best interests in mind, even though I don't want to accept/admit that.