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Originally Posted by Readytostop
Sometimes very rarely but sometimes I actually want to try to talk to my H about things going on with me. But it doesn't take much to make that feeling go away... I started to tell my H something about how I was feeling (nothing to do with marriage or him or us) and he said "I hear you"... I don't know why but that shuts me down so fast...
what does that expression mean to you guys?
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I believe it depends on the relationship. Sometimes people say, "I hear you" and truly mean that they are listening and understand. Sometimes people say it just to have something to say. Others say it to make you think they're listening all while secretly hoping you'll finish talking so they can move on with their lives.
You may want to answer that with an idea of how you're feeling - but own it - that you'd like to understand the response better, so that you don't jump to conclusions, that you're shutting down because you're assuming x/y/z, etc.