I know the white noise helps keep you calm, but I suspect it interferes with being able to communicate with people.

You must be around an unusual group of people because the folks I know rarely ever talk about the topics you mentioned--or even where much religious jewelry!

I certainly couldn't speak Spanish with anyone, no matter how slow they spoke.

When people ask you about work or school, they are just assuming you are doing one and/or the other. You can say that right now you are unemployed (common in this economy) and you aren't in school. You can tell them you are exploring your options.

You will need to learn to make small talk to succeed in relationships.

Are you in therapy for your social anxiety? I see you are listing the reasons why you are held back. Now you need to look for ways to get ahead!