>> I feel like I am not important enough to want to get help....

Please don't feel that way. I'm not excusing him but his addiction and his fear of getting help are really coloring his judgment right now. That's what addiction does... it is overriding his judgment and caring for the things he loves most. You may be able to convince him to get help but he has to want that help in recognition of what the addiction is doing to his life.

I wish you the best with this. For his own sake as well as yours, don't let him off the hook. If you are able to find a support group they may be able to offer suggestions in convincing him to get help.

I also have to say that despite the stress and anxiety that you have to be going through, you seem to be taking all the right steps in handling this... expressing your fears, thinking of things like gam-anon, judging his sincerity for getting help, and especially knowing when to take a step back before making a decision to be sure your thought process is as clear as possible. Hang on to that strength (but don't think that that means that you have to "act strong" all day long).

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