some of you might be familiar with my story. i was engaged to one guy due to family pressure and was in love with another. now both of them are gone! and i' m engaged to this new guy (also selected by my family but i also gave my consent because although i still like my ex bf but i know there isn't any future with him). the problem is that i have heard the 3 magical words a lot of times by now and i don't trust men saying that any more, it doesn't feel real to me anymore. my fiance says he loves me and its just been a week since we are engaged. he dint know me before so its not like he knew me before engagement and liked me secretly.

how can he really love me? its just so soon and for that its alarming. also, i feel that he wants me to respond similarly, but i' m not that kind of person who says i love you when i don't mean it - so i haven't said that to him yet. what should i do? i do believe in giving him a fair chance...but i feel like im freaking out a bit here. i don't want to scare this guy away and i really want this relationship to work otherwise i' ll become a laughing stock for people. i do like my fiance -as a person- he seems caring and affectionate...but i don't believe that he means it when he says that he loves me and cant live without me.