Hey there, I am new here too. You know sometimes us parents goof up pretty well with out even trying. I am so sorry that you are going through this with your dad. I like the idea about giving your mom a hug or/and a note to show how you feel. It will bring you closer even if it feels awkward at first. I like when my 16 year old gives me a hug or a note. Hugs especially. Your dad's stress does not make it okay to verbally assault you. that said I think you are wise to know it's about him and not you. I also like the idea of writing to safe, annonomous teens about your feelings but you need to be very careful about this and not give information about yourself, where you live etc. We've all heard the bad stories. I hope it gets easier for you. Can you keep a journal in a safe place to write about your feelings? If you can do that as well as practicing healthy ways to feel better it will help. Healthy for me is trying to eat good foods on a regular basis. Exercising, sleeping, doing something fun that feeds my soul. I am glad we both found this place.