Hello gypsy and welcome to the forums here.

I personally would say that you have to consider the likelihood that you will eventually end up hurt by this guy, and whether putting in time with him now will be worth it. Also if his marriage does get broken up, if his wife finds out or something, how you will feel being mixed up in all that.

I do feel that urging him to get professional help is absolutely the right thing to do. It will definitely be the best thing for him even if it doesn't work out the best way for you. The best you can hope for anyway is to be stuck with someone with severe problems, it will be best for all, I think, to try to improve the situation.

Good luck with this, and keep posting here, there are a lot of supportive people here.

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