My ex-hub and I worked with a sex therapist together for a little while, to help me accept my body and enjoy sex. {It didn't work for me.} I reasoned with myself in order to allow sex between us, but as time passed it became less and less frequent. It was a hard road.
I wish that I had some words of encouragement ~ positive news to pass on & share. I have learned (over the years) that my life would be a lot easier if I were alone. It is really tough, imo, to work on yourself in deep areas like these when you have pressure from outside to please.