Welcome. You are moving in the right direction by identifying the problem and looking for solutions.

When my anxiety was at its peak a number of years ago, I also dropped out of life for a while (I even quit work for a time). I made commitments I didn't keep, then felt lousy for doing so. It only made matters worse and put an even bigger dent in my low self-esteem.

I knew life could be better because at one time it had been for me. It was sink or swim and so I decided I wanted to get better. I did lots of things like medication, counseling, reading self-help books, etc. The best thing I did was to join a support group (Co-Dependents Anonymous) and get a sponsor. None of it was easy but all of it was worth it. Today, I am back to work, socializing, traveling, etc.

This is just one person's story but I suppose the moral is I finally learned it was up to me to get better.