I think there are probably some therapists who aren't willing to work with people unless they acknowledge and are actively working on a problem that threatens their mental health. My T and I had a discussion a few weeks ago about how he can't continue to work with couples where there is violence unless the violence stops.

I can appreciate your T's perspective from this point of view, and I personally agree with her. She can't let it go and personally, I think she's right. I do think your drinking is a problem and you just won't be able to see how much until you are off the booze and see how you feel then.

I think your choices are to either work on your drinking problem or find a new T. I don't see her backing down, she's told you she won't. So you can surround yourself with other people who don't see it as a problem and continue down this destructive path, or you can have the courage to honestly look at your behavior and want more for yourself.

I think the comment she made, whether it's insulting or not, deserves a conversation with her. In my experience, it is not uncommon for dysfunctional people to hire other dysfunctional people as drinking buddies, personal wailing walls, or any other number of inappropriate roles. Just because she is good at her job and you are good at your job doesn't negate the possibility that this is what is going on. She can "endorse" you both because you do a good job and because she likes drinking with you. So your interpretation about what your T's statement means is not entirely correct. But talking about it would be a good idea.