Hi Tillymay,
Do some research on it. There seems to be different kinds of transference. For me it was well into my sessions it showed up. By the holidays it was in full swing. I mean every waking thought, racy dreams, making sure everything is perfect whenever I saw him. It did subside for some time. I then just casually blurt it out that I was dealing with transference and was having explicit dreams about him. But I hurried up and said that it was gone away. I looked up at him and his mouth was agape. He was shocked. He was more bothered I never said anything to him about it. I felt no need to up until that point. I do go through some merging of the transference, then it go away. Like now we're into week 4 of the transference revisited. It doesn't help he asks certain questions while looking away. His voice lowers to a whisper he look down and asks. Then I respond he go back to talking like normal. A art of him do feel an affection towards him. I appreciate him. Will he ever feel the same? I doubt it. It would be a HUGE stroke to my ego if the man was. He's handsome, intelligent, witty, and supportive. Meh! We know that will not happen. So for no, I must come to terms with it and suffer in silence.