smilee44, I definitely think he is dealing with something--I don't know about Asperger's myself, but some of these folks do. IF he does agree to go to a counselor and start the diagnosis process, then you will still have many, many relationship issues to deal with.

Of course, it's your choice to see if he might be willing to try again, but I personally think he's not a keeper. At any rate, best wishes.

You might want to share part of this situation in the relationship forum to see what feedback you might get there.