It sounds like a perception thing to me, Jon. I still remember when I went through a session and felt like we were talking about the "wrong" thing? I mentioned this and my T got thoughtful for a moment then said, "I agree." With that the session was over! I was blown away, I think because of my unconscious idea she was "in charge" of the therapy thing.

It's 100% your therapy. You are the only actor, the only one doing anything, your T is just along for the ride, kind of an advisor. You have to figure out what you want, what you feel. There are no "tricks" it's just uncovering and being who you are.

What's scary for you? What don't you want to tell your T? How do you work? My T and I figured out I was like a car travelling on the highway and when I'd get to something "difficult" I'd take the cloverleaf off then come back up later You have to put yourself into the emotional situations that you don't want to be in, think about the things you're trying not to. That's the only way to get anywhere in therapy. You have to take risks and see what happens and deal with what happens, etc.