if they admitted to being wrong for saying what they have all my life, then i would feel validated. i would feel better, and i'd put it behind me, and try not to let the memories affect my way of thinking with my kids. but i have told them that they were emotionally abusive, and the return was not pretty. my great grandma is in her late 80s and is stubborn. she thinks she raised me the right way and other than me not going to college like she wanted, i have done well for myself. so she wouldn't accept it and would further put me down as a rebellious ungrateful person because it's like i'm putting her down even though i should be raising her up on a pedestal for how i've turned out.

as for my mother, i don't know that i even care about her response. we aren't on the best terms as it is, right now. she would blow up on me and try to make things more difficult. i tried to bring it up the last time i was with her. she changed the subject or, when i pushed the matter, she tried to blame it all on my great grandma. if i'd kept pushing, she would have blown up on me.

i honestly don't know any other approach than to just get over it, haha.

with that being said, i don't know why i posted on here about it when i already "know" what i should do...but i don't know if that's the inner voice or if that's really how i should handle it.