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May 08, 2013, 09:04 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I'm always trying to mourn that I can't have the relationship with my T that I want. I've expressed wishing I could be a baby with her, but that I have to be an adult. I used to say "I feel too little to be grown up". When we did the SE, I told my T it felt good and I wished I could be a baby again. So, these feelings have come up. That's why we did visualizations with my adult self holding me, the baby--to show that my Self is always there for the baby part who often wants to be taken care of. Do you mean something else? I'm trying to understand.  |
I guess, mourning the loss of your real mother-daughter relationship and your role as the child in that relationship... I feel like maybe this is connected to your relationships with your T's, the tenacious holding on to that idealized relationship, and your role in it, as it's transferred to the T's. Of course I could also be spouting mumbo jumbo... In any case, it occurred to me to look up the stages of mourning:
Typically, the seven (7) stages of grief are described as:
- Shock or Disbelief
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Guilt
- Depression
- Acceptance and Hope
This is a link to an explanation of the stages on WebMD: Stages of Grief: How to Cope With Grief and Loss
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