Also, when I told her it would have been helpful for her to anticipate how I might react to her abrupt decision (which she still wouldn't own, damn it), she said something like, "Well, I could anticipate you would go see consultT or you would shut down and stop therapy altogether, but I can't really ever know what you're going to do, can I?"

What the what was that?! Anticipate how I would FEEL, T. That's what I needed you to do. But apparently you've failed Empathy 101.