I have been following your posts Moon and they have been very helpful. This one has prompted me to make my first post on here. In my case, I am going through all of the painful feelings for my therapist. I'm male and she is female and we are close in age. The whole transference thing snuck up on me and I am working through it with her now, although her training does not lye in this specific area. Her training is in "systems" therapy which works great for all the issues I am experiencing with my mentally ill wife. I also have four kids, two who have special needs. So while I need the support, I don't necessarily need to fix what isn't broken as you stated above. How does one handle these powerful transference feelings when they aren't necessarily broken, but came up anyway?