t is human. probably should have asked about the notes. just curious, if you routinely did bring and refer to notes, why did you start to keep them hidden and not say anything? passive aggressive? (i can hear a thought "go ahead, ask about the notes."...)---just sounds like you see it as a reason for anger and i wonder why. or were you hurt by the remarks you don't recall? i'm all over the place here and don't expect answers, just being rhetorical...
did you feel she thought you were not doing well? wasn't satisfied? was dismissive?
i ask because i have known myself to do such things in the past, set up silent challenges...or react with anger when hurt.