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Originally Posted by Moodswing
I started seeing a different therapist just to help break my attachment to my original therapist. I just started this week reducing sessions to everyother week. I just can not take the attachment I have to him and it hindering my recovery. I told him I started seeing the other therapist because I was to attached to him. He still has not addressed the issue. Either he does not understand himself or he is avoiding the subject.
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I feel so sad when I read your post Moodswing - because I beleieve that the key to your healing is in being able to attach to the therapist and work through how it feels. This would need a therapist who is sensitive to, and understands attachment and dependency and can hold, and respond to, your very painful feelings with you as you do the work. It is about early attachment and attachment needs that weren't met. And I hear how frightening attachment feels for you - because it was frightening for you I suspect?
It feels he doesn't have the skills to help you - and his own attachment seems avoidant - he hasn't helped you to address the issue. It may be he hasn't done his own work and so can't enter into it with you.
When a client tries to lessen the number of sessions because the attachment is so painful, I would see that as an indication that more sessions are needed and would respond accordingly to hold the client in and allow them to do their work - i wonder if you could find a therapist who is more attachment/ relationally based - who can respond to your needs?
Moon
