My ts always try the trick question (and I admit I'm so gullible it actually works with me) - "well if you WERE thinking about it, what would that thought be?" I do like that hesnot letting it just go by the wayside. Seems like it might just pop up. Like something in one of these other crises would follow the pattern somehow. I'd be saying, "see, this is just like when my mother blah blah blah -" but to an uninvolved outsider, they wouldn't see how it related at all. If you're not doing that, then maybe you're healthier than t realizes. You're not acting out.