Can't one be a victim and a survivor? I am a victim of some things, but I am still alive so I guess I must be a survivor as well. However that doesn't negate what's happened to me.

And I don't get this choice thing I cant just up and choose that I wasn't a victim of the things I was. I certainly did not choose to be a victim of anything. I guess I will still check out the article but usually this sort of thing doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me.