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Originally Posted by Bloem
I know it does not make sense, I know that the others belong to me .....It only does not feel that way. I know the other parts also need therapy and that it is necessary in order to recover. But sometimes it feels like the other parts take my time in therapy especially the teen part she's very outspoken and not shy, the opposite of me in touch with others. She talks a lot and is happy with T even though she often 'fights' with her. She is much more open than me to T. Sometimes my T knows something that I'm sure I have not told and never would tell her. I try to accept it because what else can I do? But sometimes I feel jealous, it looks like they have a better contact and they take my time in therapy.
Does anyone have experience with this?
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no I was never jealous of my alters...they were there inside of me taking control, doing their jobs, purposes reasons for being all my life..so it was nothing new to me that I would space out during therapy and an alter would be in control talking and spending time with my therapist. besides once my therapist and I worked on things like grounding, breathing ...I was able to remain more grounded in therapy which meant it was me not my alters spending time with my therapist...
by the way its not always necessary for alters to have therapy too. many of my alters chose not to be part of therapy. and healing was still possible. there are other ways people and alters can work out their problems besides sitting in therapy with a therapist such as journaling, physical activity, diet, getting enough sleep and other things too. many of my alters worked out their problems by taking art classes at the local college. one of my alters worked out her problems through painting. Another worked out their problems by working at the local animal shelter...and they not once took control during therapy, did not spend any time talking with any mental health treatment providers...