This isn't a response to anyone here. I thought the article was good and it applies to some circumstances when I read in back in 2011. I'm a victim of an awful marriage to a narcissistic man who's threatened me with financial hardship, possible alienation of the kids and making my life hell if I push legally for divorce. I have been trying to find a job to give myself financial independence but no luck. I've tried all the mental tricks and positive thinking but I completely out of ideas. So yeah I'm a victim not by choice.