I posted my history with my then girlfriend, now wife, titled "Why my mood is STUCK". Ironman88 and Aoikaze, except for not having children, my story sounds like both of yours and no doubt, many other men and women on here. My wife won't stop drinking and when I brought up her BPD behavior when she attended a session with my psychiatrist, she told me I should forget about the past and live in the present. Right. After getting repeatedly kicked in the 'nads' for so many years, metaphorically speaking. Now, because she took a Transcendental Meditation course 22 years ago, she's now leaning on me to go. I see how much that helped her! Can't save her, so I've got to save me and with treatment resistant ultra rapid cycling bipolar, my situation is more critical. She has gin to numb herself.