I don't set up meetings like t his. what I do is write out the situation on a few different pieces of paper and leave them around the house where I find drawings and journal entries and so on. then when I naturally end up triggered and dissociate if the resulting piece of memory contains information about the situation on the paper that paper gets filled in and I see it the next time I am aware.

Other ways I learn information about things is by using relaxation visualizations to enter my tunnel co consciousness area and then my therapist asks me questions and I answer her based on what memory is replaying.

I cant have physical tea parties, meetings and so on where me and my alters sit around a table and so on.