Sounds like a lot of it is learned from his childhood. I think he'd actually have to "work" on it like we do with stuff in therapy? I know I have trouble with a lot of the things I picked up from growing up or have added on and I have to "want" to pay attention and do them differently. So, unless he himself sees any need to change and get help doing so I can't why he would want to? Maybe you're facilitating him by accepting his apologies each time? I'd talk to him and see if/what he wants to do about the behavior.

When my husband does things I don't like it can upset me but I try to remember it's his behavior and doesn't reflect on me. Hard though, I know, when you're around other people/neighbors.