Thanks Alexandra - both you and Perna gave me really thoughtful and solid replies. I appreciate it.

When he yells, I guess my reaction probably doesn't help much. I usually try to counter his strange logic by correcting his facts, which in retrospect (am thinking about an incident that we went through this morning) really doesn't help. It just frustrates him even more.

The last time we talked calmly about what we could have done differently, he told me that I should tell him to go outside until he has calmed down. I like your idea of asking him for a phrase or two. I suppose there is no reason that *I* can't walk away, but... I guess I'm stubborn and don't feel that I should have to leave since I'm not the one who is acting out. But since I don't like what is happening, removing myself from the situation certainly would help, wouldn't it?

I'm going out to dinner now but will think about what you both said in the meantime, and will post back later.

Thanks