It is interesting that the stages of grief is relied upon so much. After suffering the loss of my children I find it difficult to relate to the stages of grief. I find that they may hit on some very good focal points, but I believe that new theories are needed to truely target the grieving process. I think Freud said it best when he restated his own theory after grieving himself. Ross also recanted and claim that there was more to it and not easy to describe. People do respond differently and for different reasons. As with the death of children I find that people face complete identity change in order to go on and not get stuck. Each and every child is different and interaction of self with each is different. I found myself searching for meaning of life, material things, sucess, etc meant much less. A major problem I had was the physical symptoms caused by stress. It is easy to say eclectic, but truely when grieving the whole mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual must be included. Postmoderism surely will include thoughts for grieving processes.