(((Sarsho)))

I have/had difficult times with Mother's Day as well. I don't have a good relationship with my mother and right now none, nor is she welcomed in my life at the moment, if ever again.
My sisters, while they totally agree with why I have disconnected from many family members such as our mom, they still talk to her; which is fine- it is their choice to. I am not sure if they "celebrate" her, I have a feeling my one sister probably doesn't and the other does, due to their personalities . As far as my brothers, Two i don't know if they talk to her or not- and one i know does not.

I went a few years with the holidays (all of them) just passing by, I did not acknowledge any of them really, especially Mother's and Father's day.. December Holidays are hard not to note because everyone is commercializing them, but even then, I would come to work and do my thing, and another day passed..... But a few years ago that all some what changed, due to I got together with my S/O and he acknowledges holidays, and this one coming up, for his mom.

One thing that has helped me through the years is to recognize the Mothers that are out there that DO Try, that DO Love and They are nothing like My mother was/is.

Sure I may not have had that myself, but I am very happy to see that others do not have what I had, which for me means a lot.

While I may not see eye to eye with everything my S/O's Mom says or does, or has done; I do see that she has a very nice character and that his parents did try their best. And my S/O sees things as well with her that he has loved. that there is something that while I have to acknowledge that I never had, never will have--- someone else does, and that is wonderful that someone else has that.

I know at times I have went through a grieving period of not having a "mom" like some people do... And I think that is ok, I think that is part of what helps with growing and moving forward for myself. My grieving had hatred at one point, which has settled over the years with me understanding some more things, understanding things doesn't make things "right" but some times it does help-- and of course there are some things I will never understand and just have to do that awful hard thing of "accepting" as is.



Sure we may only have "One Bi-logical Mom" but that doesn't mean much if they were never really a true mother for us. It is just like family, some times it is what we make of it....

Many well thoughts to you and many hugs