Got this problem with my mum. I love her and know she loves me too.
I dont know why, but whenever we tried to speak about my problems/what had happened to me it just got worse. Yeah, she too came up with the open yourself to God and he will help you (god knows I've spent nights praying when I was a child and it didnt help a bit), accept it, don't think about it, think about something positive... Anyway, I felt so frustrated (plus it deepened my it's-all-my-fault thinking).
i've learned not to speak about this with her and find a T who understands and can help calm me down when I feel that way. IDK how he does it but it works and I do feel better after speaking to him- great relieve.
Cant imagine not getting that even from my T...