> When he yells, I guess my reaction probably doesn't help much. I usually try to counter his strange logic by correcting his facts, which in retrospect (am thinking about an incident that we went through this morning) really doesn't help. It just frustrates him even more.

Yeah. There is a saying 'it takes two to have an argument'. I wasn't sure, though, whether it is that he goes off yelling at you or if there is a period of escalation where both of you are kind of talking over the top of one another. When it gets to that point... It might be time to take a breather. Or have a two minute rule. One talks for two minutes and the other listens. The next person talks for two minutes and the other listens. That way you both feel heard without feeling like you have to say the same things over and over just at a higher volume...

> I suppose there is no reason that *I* can't walk away, but... I guess I'm stubborn and don't feel that I should have to leave since I'm not the one who is acting out.

lol.

I think it is about de-escalating the situation rather than about who's fault it is ;-)

There might be times when it is most convenient for you to leave or for him to leave... If you guys develop a pattern around this then hopefully he will notice and go calm down without your having to say anything. I guess the reason I suggested that you leave is that if you told him to go calm down he might say 'I'm perfectly calm' even though he isn't. Sometimes it can be a defensive reaction whereas if you say it then go it will just take a minute for him to realise that he was indeed wound up. I guess I'm just thinking in terms of de-escalation...

Removing yourself from the situation is also a way of saying (implicitly) 'I'm NOT going to stand for this'.