I've gotten jealous before but I'm starting to think that the negative emotions were trying to tell me that something was wrong. I was dating this one guy and I was super jealous of his neighbor/friend, he seemed to really care about her but I'm certain he didn't care for me in the same way and was just using me for sex (he even told me he didn't want to get emotionally involved), I kind of feel like my jealousy was warranted in that situation.

I'm seeing a guy now and I haven't gotten jealous or have been feeling the need for reassurance. He's super nice and has been showing an interest/giving me attention. This is the first time I've been involved with someone and haven't been riddled with anxiety. Sometimes I worry that it's because I'm not all that attracted to him, I mean I am attracted to him it's just not that intense. Intensity tends to come with A$$holes, like I totally get off on people using me for sex or not being that into me.. but I simply can't be in those kinds of situations and don't even want to have intense feelings for someone anyways.