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Old May 10, 2013, 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted by AmazingGrace7 View Post
LL, from someone who has been terminated by a T, I think you are very wise to wait to send the letter at least until you have the opportunity to talk with ConsultT or let your emotions calm some. I sent a couple of letters to my former T after he terminated me. I wanted to hurt him with words (like he hurt me). Truthfully, he never really ever "got it" because he was more concerned about preserving his image of himself than he was, my well being. Afterwards, what I worked on in therapy was learning about ME and the part of me that needed to prove, I am worthy!

I have observed a pattern with some T's, some mentioned on this board and IRL, who make poor choices in an effort to preserve themselves. Sad, really.

I think your letter is well stated, I just worry what might happen if your T doesn't respond. And, there is a great chance this might happen.
Well, I'm not sure about wise anymore. I ended up sending my T a final letter last night. I removed the vitriol, though, and tried to give her some feedback about how I wished she had conducted the final session differently. I expressed anger and sadness (without the mean language) that she had allowed our six-year relationship to end so precipitously. I don't know if i'll ever hear from her again. I'm mostly anticipating that I won't.

What you said about your T needing to preserve his image more than your well being exactly mirrors what I feel like my experience is.
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