Dear T,

I'm pretty proud of how well I've coped with the fact you couldn't fit me in for an extra session. And it's given me some important information about how I've related to other people in the past. My instinct is to apologise to you for asking for something you can't give me, so you won't get angry or upset. I can't allow you to be someone who might have disappointed me - not because of how I feel about it, but because of how you feel about it. That seems like it's not the way things should be.

I wish I had moved work stuff round and gone at the time you offered me yesterday. One of the work people let me down and I could have gone, and I felt so gutted, but I guess at least I was able to see that I could cope without the extra session.